Saturday, October 24, 2009


it's a wonderful book,'Notes To Myself' by Hugh Prather.i have read very few number of books but this is really unique.i saw name of this book in someone's profile in a social networking site.i asked dad to bring that.i was expecting a personality development book with at least 200 pages.i couldn't believe when dad brought that,it's a small book with very few has no's a typical notes that Hugh has written to himself.every time i read,each line gives some new meaning.
as i went on reading i felt i am reading someone's some point i felt i am reading a book which is written especially for has really inspired me a lot and also enlightened.
anyone who is interested to know about themselves and to understand their self must read this book once.
few lines i would like to mention from that book which i liked a lot........
*Don't live for,just live.
*Tomorrow is a shallow,today is as deep as truth.
*Anxiety running through my life is the tension between what i 'should be',what i 'want to be' and what 'i am'.
*Anxiety doesn't come from thinking about future but from wanting to control it.
*Act now without knowing the results.
*"It will be interesting to see what happens"- is a more realistic attitude toward future consequences than worry.
* Perfectionism is slow death.
*If everything were to turn out just as i would want it to,just as i would plan,i would never experience anything would be an endless repetition of stale successes.when i make a mistake i experience something new.
*Fear of mistakes seems to arise from the assumption that i am potentially perfect.
*A mistake is a declaration of the way i am now,a jolt to the expectations i have unconsciously set,a reminder i am not dealing with the facts.when i have listened to my mistakes i have grown.
*The key to motivation is to look at how far i have come rather than how far i have to go.
*Happiness is present attitude not a future condition.
*My trouble is i analyze life instead of live it.
*The more i attempted to 'be me',the more 'me's i found there were.
*Don't fight a fact,deal with it.
*Don't have fear about any feeling you have.when you disown a feeling you do not destroy it,you only forfiet your capacity to act it out as you wish.
*It's not that we fear the place of darkness but that we don't think we are worth the effort to find the place of light.
*I am not responsible for my feelings but for what i do with them.
*Selfishness is neither good nor bad,it depends on the way we are selfish as to whether it nourishes or injures.
*Learning to respond to now is the only thing there is to learn.
*The criticism that hurts the most is the one that echoes my own self-condemnation.
*There is no such thing as 'best' in a world of individuals.
*Blunt honesty with my feelings gives me greater empathy with other people's feelings.
*Moods should be heard but never danced to.
*True humour is fun-it does not put down,kid or makes people feel wonderful,not separate,different or cut off.true humour has beneath it the understanding that we are all in this together.
still there are lots of such lines which are enough to inspire,enlighten and change anyone completely..........

Friday, September 4, 2009

Did they try to say something?

since two or three years i am getting some unique dreams.i feel they try to say something.some are conversations,some in the form of mails,greetings.some seem meaningless,some mysterious........
i would like mention such dreams- a greeting card it was written in dark blue colour-'acceptance is the way for happiness'.
2.a friend said-"the feeling or opinion that a person has about you is known by the way he/she treats you when he/she is with others".
3.'when the master and the disciple are in trouble,either master should sacrifice or disciple should sacrifice,but both shouldn't sacrifice'.
4.'a mind drifted by thoughts is just like a flowing river.any stone thrown into it makes no effect.a calm mind is just like a stagnant pond,even a small pebble thrown creates many ripples'.
5.'i talk and you all all listen not because i talk,you listen let anybody talk.but i talk only because you listen'.
6.'God gave everything to everyone but while giving interest,He gave that only to few'.
7.'follow the yellow grass,you will reach green grass.follow the green grass,surely you will reach the forest one day'.
8.someone said to me-"there may be any number of difficulties in the road,if once i realise that it takes me to my goal,i won't leave that road".
9.there is no logic for this game,what you have to do is just keep running.the moment you stop running you lose the game.
will be updating this if i get any such 'unique dreams' again.........

Sunday, August 30, 2009

The cat and the blood

it was just few days before exams,i was at was afternoon 3.00 was returning to office.he called mom,his voice was quite raised.we understood that something was wrong.when we went outside he showed the marks of blood near the flower was clear that an animal has gone that way with its prey.we guessed it was the cat which always tried to drink milk from our kitchen.few days back mom had told that the cat has become 'non-vegetarian' ,it has started eating other little creatures.the truth is,cat is a carnivorous animal.
then we went along those blood-marks,trying to know where that cat might have was clear that the cat was hid in that time dad had gone.none of us dared to go inside.i had read in a book that when an animal is with its prey,it may attack anyone who we waited till dad returns.we started discussing about the cat,it's prey,what that prey may be?a frog?a lizard?no,the blood marks were quite bigger,so thought the prey may be a big creature.i rarely like cats because i am afraid of their sharp nails.many times they had troubled by drinking milk,also a cat had broken one beautiful idol at home.
dad came back,we informed about the cat.he went inside the bathroom,made that cat run outside.then we saw a 'horrible scene'.the cat was walking slowly,unable to run,it was badly of its leg was half broken,it was still bleeding.for protection it was hid inside bathroom.
i don't know how that cat got hurt,i don't know where that cat went,whether that cat is still alive or not.but whenever i see any cat walking near my home i believe it's the same cat and it's alright now.this incident has changed my image regarding cat.i won't fear to that extent because i know it won't harm anyone unnecessarily.
this incident also realised me that,i have to think twice before coming to judgement about anything,even if i see through my own eyes.
कभी कभी जो दीखता है वो होता नहीं, और कभी कभी जो होता है वो दीखता नहीं ...........

Tuesday, August 4, 2009

Ruins of the fort disturbed me

it was not for the first time that i visited Bidar,but i was more curious this may be because of the two historic novels which i had read recently.there was a time when i hated to study history,especially in the high school days.i always thought what's the use of studying past.but thanks to the great writers like 'S.L.Bhirappa' and 'Ta.Ra.Su' who changed my views regarding history and it's study.
29 July 2009,i went to Bidar with my was 11:45 am when we reached the fort.the clouds saved us from the harsh rays of sun.first we saw one of the bastions,stood on it,touched the huge cannon surmounted on it.the wonderful view that i got standing on that bastion is just unforgettable.but there were no guides,no one who can explain the history of the fort.every stone said it's own story,but i hardly understood that.some part of the fort were closed,not allowing the visitors to see of them is 'Rangeen Mahal'.there's a museum,even that's good.the fort is maintained in a good condition.while seeing the fort i just went on guessing that,this may be the palace,here the soldiers might have stood as defence,this may be the swimming pool,this may be........
i saw how a particular dynasty dominated the rule of other,at some places i could see that how a particular culture was suppressed by the other.
felt bad about myself that,why didn't i study the history before i visited the fort?the wonderful fountains and garden are so beautiful.i was feeling to capture everything but i had no camera.i tried hard to capture everything in my eyes........
few thoughts came into my time when i visit any fort I'll study it's history because i can't depend on any 'guides' and I'll carry a digital camera with me.when i shared these thoughts with my cousin,he told what's the use of it?what's the benefit to study the history?.......
i couldn't answer him.
then i decided,next time when i visit any fort I'll go with someone having the same interest as took two hours for us to come out of the fort.
though i came out of the fort physically,mentally my mind lingered in those ruins of the fort.
after i returned,searched for the information regarding the fort of Bidar.few links from where i gained little bit information regarding the fort.
i collected the images from 'Google images',first one is the entrance of the fort,second one is the wonderful view of the palace that we get when we stand in front of the museum,the third one is a snap of Rangeen Mahal.

Sunday, August 2, 2009

Friends in my life

friends play a very important role in my present i have very few friends.i don't know how far it is good to classify friends as good friends,close friends,best friends,just friends......
but it is true that every friend has his/her own importance.everyone has a 'best friend',even i too have one.i had to wait for 16 years to get such a friend.i believe that for a relation to be strong,there should be friendship between may be the relationship of a mom and daughter or husband and wife.
since my childhood i have got many friends.many of them departed in the journey of my dad used to get transferred once in every three years,i could stay in a city only for three once in 3 years i used to have new school,new friends and new neighbours.i can never forget the pain i suffered in every departure and every new adjustment.but life goes on.i couldn't keep contact with many of my 'lost friends'.i just have their greeting cards and letters to remember them.but very rarely it happens that we again meet the friends whom we had said bye long back.even i have got such a friend back in my life once again after a long break of 5 to 6 years passed i got few good friends,though we departed still we are in contact.thanks to the technology.
a great writer says we should be the best friend of ourselves because most of the time in our daily life we spend with ourselves.if today what i am,then there's a part of all of my friends.from every friend i learnt one or the other thing,like,to be generous,to be truthful,to hope,to dream and more than that to be what i am.sometimes we also get some bad memories in making friends.i think a lot before making someone as my friend because if once i consider anybody as my friend then it's very difficult for me to break that relationship.
few things i have learnt in my life till now regarding 'friendship',they are:'s better to be alone than to be in a bad or disagreed company.
2.don't take someone too close to your heart until and unless you realise that even you are close to their heart.
3.don't take any of your friend for granted.
4.don't talk about one friend with the other unnecessarily.'s better to have friends with same tastes and interest.
now with the evolving of networking sites the meaning of friendship is little bit changed.we have the people in our friends list whom we have never met and talked to.yet i have found some of my 'lost friends' in such sites and i am really thankful to it.
today being 'Friendship day' i would like to remember all of my friends and i thank God for making my life colourful with such wonderful and special friends.
i have read many forward messages,quotes and poems regarding friends and friendship,but this one i like a lot,that is,a forward message-
'we make so many friends,some become dearest,
some become special,felt in love with someone,
some go abroad,some change their cities,
some left us,we left some,
some are in contact,some are not in contact,
some don't contact because of their ego,
we don't contact some because of our ego,
what ever they were,how ever they are,
we still remember,love,miss,care for them
because of the part they played to make 'MEMORIES'............
Happy Friendship day!!

Tuesday, July 14, 2009

In search of happiness.....

i always wonder that where all i will search for happiness.there are many things which make me happy.i usually find happiness in mom's appreciation regarding me,dad's support and encouragement,sister's company,a friend's call or message,favourite teacher's class,someone's mails,a baby's smile,a movie,a song,a book,an article in the newspaper,T.V,PC,mobile,rain,sleep,dreams.......
uff!!the list goes varies according to a person's interest,tastes and his/her personality that in what all he/she finds happiness.but is that true that we really find happiness in these things......
when the power goes off,when battery loses its charge,the T.V,PC and mobile can't give me the happiness.instead i will get the double sadness.when i am left alone,the only thing that will be with me is i think the real happiness lies in myself.
I've realised it but to follow in the life is not that easy because the mind won't again starts to search the happiness in any situation,person or thing.sometimes i will feel bored,i will be in dumps,i will be unable to do anything,i will cry,it's all because i search for takes many days or years to find happiness in our self and stop searching for it anywhere else.
i had read a story,in which God decides to put the happiness in such a place that man will be unable to find it last He decides to put in the man himself because God knew that man may easily search the happiness wherever it is but he could never look for it inside himself.......
a question arises in my mind that,'was God afraid that if man finds happiness easily,he would have forgotten Him?????'.

Sunday, March 8, 2009

It's the time to express

everyone have their own opinions and feelings but only few are interested in writing its 'women's day' and i am happy that today i started blogging.usually what we do on this day is wishing all women a happy women's day and discussing about matters related with women like their rights,their condition in society,the way they are developing day by day in all sectors,how they have stood equal to men and etc.i agree the discrimination of women has been reduced in drastic way but i can't accept that its completely gone....
it was long back(somewhere even now) that women were exploited through child marriage,dowry system,sati system,not allowing them to school,deva dasi system and many was a time when they didn't have their own the situation is completely opposite.they have come outside of their house,they have formed their own identity,they are in all those fields which once upon a time were meant only for men.but still their exploitation women have to work in the house and also outside the house.they are however managing.still they are dicriminated in the name of customs and traditions........
sometimes a question arises that 'did the nature do discrimination while creating a man and a WOMAN?'...............